Helping Your Loved One Cope With Being in a Nursing Home
In the United States there are 17,000 nursing homes with a total of 1.8 million beds. Slightly over 5% of the 65+ population reside in nursing homes, assisted living facilities, congregate care or boarding homes, according to the U.S. Bureau of the Census. Population estimates show that these numbers will continue to rise drastically for the next 30 years as the baby boomers (1946-1964), the largest segment of the population move into their 70s and 80s. For those families with loved ones already in nursing homes, it is very important that they reach out to their loved ones especially during the holiday season. Below are several tips for helping your loved ones cope with being in a nursing home.
1. Visit
It is estimated that 60% of nursing home residents have no visitors. If you live in the area you are encouraged to visit your loved one, even if only for an hour or so. Sit with them, hold their hand and spend some quality time.
2. Share memories
If you do visit be sure to bring old family pictures. Sit with your loved one and go through the family albums. For many seniors these memories from their childhood and young adulthood are the last memories to fade with age. Listen to their wonderful stories and share some of your memories as well.
3. Keep them up to date
Make sure to share any good news with your loved ones. Tell them about the birth of any new family members, weddings, job promotions etc. Send pictures if you can so they can still feel like part of the family.
4. Call
Some family members don’t live locally and can’t visit regularly. However, call the facility and have them put your relative on the phone. Try to be mindful of the nursing home schedule as many residents have to be transported to the dining room for meals and/or may need assistance with eating their meals. Try to avoid calling during meal times if at all possible. Residents also participate in speech and physical therapy and attend social activities so they may be out of their room. Try to call back if you don’t reach them the first few times. Even if your loved one has a hearing impairment try and talk to them on the phone briefly. The staff can let them know you called and they will feel loved and remembered.
5. Send a small care package
Everyone loves gifts! Try to send your loved one something for the holiday from the family. Remember it doesn’t have to be anything extravagant because it really is the thought that counts. Family photos (plastic frames), a shawl, baseball cap, small throw blanket, pajamas, housedress, and warm socks are wonderful gifts ideas and not expensive.